I believe love and respect increases between a couple on one condition - if the couple is willing to do the work required to make their marriage work. Nothing thrives in an atmosphere of nonchalance. When two people decide to marry, it is because they saw qualities in themselves they were willing to live with and tolerate, for the rest of their lives. So if a couple concentrates on stepping down their weakness and consciously working and encouraging each other’s strengths, they are bound to increase their love and respect for each other. This involves taking the time to understand each other and always putting the other person first, and of course, openly talking about their hurts and disagreements. And most importantly knowing that they are two in one against the world.
On the other hand, if a couple feels or decides that the love they have is enough and that their chemistry is so strong nothing can break them, Sooner or later, they’ll discover their first breaking factor will not come from outside..it will come from within, when the euphoria clears off and the real self - which often is not palatable - sets in. This is when complaints such as - You’re selfish, You don't care about me anymore, you've stopped loving me, you dont do this or do that anymore, you've changed...etc come in. The couple have become too comfortable with each other they begin to take the other party, most often, for granted.
A marriage can work and love and respect increase...yes. The extent to which the love and respect between a couple increases depends on the extent to which they are willing to set aside their individual preferences and make the marriage work.
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